Day 12: Proverbs 29:15

The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.

Proverbs 29:15

Two elements are essential to a child learning wisdom: pain and instruction. If either of these two elements is left out of our active parenting, we just simply aren’t doing our job. The main point of this proverb is that parents must be active in training their child, with a proper balance of teaching that is “backed-up” by a system of consequences. These consequences must be painful enough that the child will listen to the teaching. The pain would need to be appropriate for the purpose of aiding the learning process. For a young child, that might mean taking a toy away, while taking the cell phone would be far more painful for a teenager. As the proverb implies, actively parenting takes time, and if that time isn’t given, the result is often a child that is a heartache to a mom (and a dad).

Day 12 Reflection:

What is a consequence or consequences that would be effective with your teen?